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Which Will You Choose: Door 1 or Door 2 | The Risk and Reward of Anticipation

I was having a conversation recently with a client about the power of anticipation; its risks and rewards. If you’ve had staff that have developed a reputation for being negative, moaning about changing or plain pessimistic, it’s reasonable you’d find it disappointing and frustrating.

You might be one of these Leaders, moving quickly, stumbling straight into unconscious bias and slap bang into resistance.

In a fleeting moment Resistance gives you TWO options:

Door One: Resistance that frustrates progress, erodes culture and drains you of energy.

Door Two: Resistance that provides opportunity for you to lead through the tension, grow in your capability, and dare to believe for the best in every situation.

 

The Risk and Reward of Anticipation

The next time you’re into the swing of a change process, delivering direction or negotiating, DECIDE beforehand how you will ANTICIPATE resistance. Wise Leaders think about what they’re thinking about, pursuing wisdom and developing their understanding of themselves – and others.

Make’s me all kinds of happy when Leaders do this. There’s great strength in being intentional and anticipating through faith in yourself AND your team

DOOR 1: your heart rate will change, you’ll be expecting a negative response from the other party/ies and you’ll be giving off all these tense vibes (not so technical word lol), and that’s what you’ll attract.

  • negativity
  • push back
  • fear
  • uncertainty
  • time delays
  • economic impact
  • poor reputation management
  • erosion of culture via gossiping
  • and all kinds of weird irrational responses from one or two problem-generators

 

If, however, you anticipate DOOR 2: then you’ll walk in expecting the best, geared with positive self-talk, aware that it may not be smooth sailing, but hey, “we got this people!” you’ll be:

  • honouring your stakeholders with truth
  • naming the elephant in the room
  • articulating the change and situations they may encounter, providing them with options of their own to work the plan and embrace the vision, values
  • equipping them with key phrases
  • challenging them to develop their critical thinking skills
  • developing internal leaders that have increased confidence, assertiveness and capability

 

 

The leaders that choose to walk through DOOR 2 on a regular basis, well they’re happier leaders, they know when to make the minor adjustments guarding against being emotionally hijacked, and confidently lead their teams according to company values and clever thinking.

 

Emotional Intelligence

Learning more about how we think empowers us as Leaders. recognising the impact of fatigue and stress on our cognitive function as it bubbles up out of our mouth, spilling out onto the relationships in our world is now a moral imperative. Too often, people have a short fuse or are bound up by fear and bias – conscious or unconscious, and don’t stop to think about what they’re thinking about. That’s a mistake.

 

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Ideally as Leaders you’ll be creating a safe environment to have robust conversations that promote accountability, anticipating people will walk with you, towards a shared vision. And, for those whose path may lay in a different direction, they may create a door of their own, or through due diligence and genuine care…. you may just have to show them another kind of door….

 

And yet, imagine if we were rewarded with the best fitting people for the role and the season of the business, simply because we thought twice about how we anticipate reactions.

 

With experience and wisdom, you’ll learn how to communicate more effectively, manage your own thinking and practice the power of positive anticipation.

 

That would indeed be a just reward.

 

 

 

Shall we become a little wiser, a little less ready to be offended, and a whole lot more inclined to believe the best in others? I think that makes life a whole new level of lovely.” Tarran Deane

 


About Tarran Deane & Corporate Cinderella Leadership Development Company
We work with leaders and business owners across diverse sector to increase capability, confidence and competence, deepening connection and commercial success for our clients.

Tarran is our mighty leader and we’re inspired by her passion for people and the power of connection. Everything she does is intentional – except when big dogs come up to her Jack Russell, then her alter ego is at risk of coming out.

Everyday, consistent efforts will enhance your outcomes and give you a greater sense of joy.

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Got Yourself a Little Stage Fright or Performance Anxiety?

Got a little stagefright? They say public speaking is right up there in the top 10 stressors. It’s normal for even the most experienced Speaker to have that little twinge of performance anxiety.

You know what I’m talking about, right? The old adrenalin rush before you speak…In my 20’s I could feeeel the colour blush up my neck, to my cheeks and into my ears. I am so grateful for every opportunity to refine my skill and increase my ease with presenting public. Executive and c-suite roles provide great opportunities to showcase the achievements of your team or business to a wider audience.

 

I’m seeing more and more Leaders finding their voices and stepping into the spotlight and that’s a good thing!

Businesses are seeking recognition as disruptors and shakers of the status quo. If you have someone in house, brilliant who can coach your team to enhances their communication skills to this public persona and brand ambassador standard, hold onto them. Your firm is the exception.
What if you see a gap, you have an upcoming speaking opportunity – sitting on a panel, presenting a paper, or offering main stage speech?
 
Want Three Quick Things to Help You Overcome Performance Anxiety?

 

Prepare:
  1. know your stuff
  2. hone your craft,
  3. serve them well – pre, mid and post event

 

Here Are My Insider Secrets for the First 2 Hours Before I Go On Stage to Speak or MC:

 

1. PREPARE – KNOW YOUR STUFF
who’s the client? why them? why you? why not you? what do you know? who are you representing when you stand up on stage? what are the stakes? Settle this ~ are you the best person for this role? are you putting the time in to know who’s in the room and nurture the audience before you even get up on stage? Few things for you to think about, right?

 

Before I go anywhere near the stage I know I’ve prepared. I am a subject matter expert who is skilled, competent and My content answer the Brief and delivers additional value.

 

I’m upholding the values of my own organisations and the code of ethics of our Peak Body, Professional Speakers Australia.

 

I’m physically feeling energetic and vibrant. I’m bringing the best version of me

 

En Route to the venue I practice vocal warm ups. I went to singing lessons with this firebrand of a teacher, all 5 foot 2 of her and gee could she belt out the ballads! Marissa taught me the ‘Ba-Si-Noor-or-rah-haaaaa’. I sing. A lot – and not always well but it makes me laugh and lifts my spirit.

 

If, on the random occasion a headache threatens, I’m onto it fast. I drink plenty of water 24 hours before and in the hours after my presentation – not during unless I really need it, because I don’t want to be running to the restroom with a radio mic battery pack on my belt.

 

My AV requirements were emailed through weeks before, with my preferred microphone listed, the details of media images, presentation formats and versions. With corporate presentations, keynotes, breakouts, panels and MC work contributing to 35% of our revenue year to date, we make sure the numbers are done, agreements signed and financial terms are signed off well in advance, so we can focus on the upcoming delivery.

 

  • Need an AV Checklist? I’ll send you mine for inspiration. Email us here:office@corporatecinderella.com.au subject line: “AV Checklist Template Please” and we’ll send you mine for inspiration.
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2. PREPARE – HONE YOUR CRAFT
On the day, professional speakers are being remunerated to expertly deliver, present and facilitate. We’re not there to practice on you. We’ve been honing our craft for years before we even undertook paid engagements. This is what we do for a living. if you’ve recently spoken at your brothers wedding or a networking event, it doesn’t mean you’re ready for the main stage. There’s a lot more to do!

 

Here’s one of my tactics for overcoming stage fright:

 

I arrive with more than enough time to meet the Audio Visual Team and through sound checks. We troubleshoot dead spots in the room, looking for issues that can draw attention away from the flow of the event or cause discomfort to participants, VIPs and venue staff. I check for emerging issues with the host and PCO. I mingle with the audience, check the details and run sheet. I breathe.

 

Remember this fun. It’s Show Time!

 

3. PREPARE – SERVE OTHERS

As much as it’s about you, it’s actually nothing to do with you. You’re a conduit for information. Sharing key learnings, research, breaking down information into bit size chunks, in fun, informative ways. You may leverage personal stories that entice the different learnings styles, seal your authority as a goto company or individual

 

Where possible provide opportunity for people to continue growing and by “taking you home”. Make available resource and marketing collateral that cements your content and leave a footprint.

 

Engage the Audience. Embed the Learning. Extol the Host
 

 

That’s a Wrap!

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Those three things you must remember: Prepare, Hone Your Craft and Serve Others!

 

 

ABOUT TARRAN DEANE AFAIM

Tarran is a Strategic & Operational Leadership Consultant, Executive Coach and Keynote Conference Speaker. Author of the upcoming book “The Alphabet Principle ~ Your A-Z Guide to Being a Compelling Leader”, Tarran is also Queensland President for Professional Speakers Australia and Board Member for Newlife Uniting Care Services. A Wife, Mum, Ducati rider and sought after speaker at conferences in the Asia Pacific, Tarran equips leaders and executives using her Signature 7 Leadership Framework, to build connection and culture that drives business and organisational success.

Tarran and the team do short, sharp daily posts on one aspect of her Signature 7 Leadership Framework™. Check it out and join the conversation for your key interest areas:

  1. Sunday: Personal Leadership
  2. Monday: Toolbox Leadership
  3. Tuesday: Strategic Ledership
  4. Wednesday: Culture Leadership
  5. Thursday: Speaking Leadership inc coaching on these elements
  6. Friday: Online Leadership
  7. Saturday: Family Leadership

 
 
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